All the sentiments in the world weigh less than a single lovely action. James Lowell I was smitten by Rael’s loving gestures in the early days of our relationship. He treated me like a queen and I felt like one. No wonder my heart fell captive to his charm.
Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live with in. ~ James Baldwin Isn’t it interesting how intimate relationships teach us things about ourselves that we would never had realized without the courage that comes from revealing ourselves to another during that time of new love? I […]
Falling in love on the first date is highly unlikely and, contrary to popular belief, totally undesirable. If I think I am in love after the first date, I am probably mistaking initial attraction for the unhealthy part of me that is attracted to the unhealthy part of him. And what feels like love at […]
Conversation has a kind of charm about it, an insinuating and insidious something that elicits secrets from us just like love or liquor. ~Lucius Annaeus Seneca Every relationship starts with a conversation. I think back to my initial conversation with Rael and I remember my eagerness to connect, to show my best self, and before the night was over, telling […]
Love yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself,and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things. ~Leo Buscaglia I recently read a book, The Consciousness of Deserving by Rusty Berkus that used the term “snowflake self.” We are each unique snowflake, fingerprint selves. The trick […]
Love as if you liked yourself, and it may happen. ~Marge Piercy Self-love is one of those topics that can be so easily misinterpreted. True self-love has nothing to do with vanity, narcissism, or ego driven behavior. It is about taking the time, the energy, and the compassion to care for one’s self. I give myself […]
Chapter One Trying Out a New Swing Having left a 32-year marriage, I was hesitant to start dating again, so I approached it with what I thought was a great plan – a new swing. This chapter chronicles the beginning of my whirlwind romance with Rael, documenting it with the emails we exchanged and my […]
I’m excited about a book I have available starting October 22, 2012. Over the next 16 weeks I will post snippets from the book. Several years ago I charged head-long into a relationship destined for disaster. When the inevitable happened, I was devastated. In order to avoid future calamities, I vowed to figure out a […]