When I hear that old adage about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks, I think about my life and a new trick that I learned in my late 50’s – how to think for myself instead of blindly following the negative core beliefs that I grew up believing.
Learning this lesson started early in my marriage when my husband of three months decided he was in love with someone else. At first I was mortified, devastated, embarrassed, and ready to tar and feather the jerk.
Once I cooled down and had time to begin processing all this, I decided I needed to write a book – to help me understand what had gotten me into that situation. I wasn’t too far into this process when I realized I was the one who had married this guy while ignoring clear warnings that should have sent me running the other direction. The negative core beliefs that I had grown up believing about myself turned out to the be the default programming that I kept going back to throughout my life, including while I was dating my husband. Realizing that I could chose differently – that I did not have to keep repeating this old dysfunctional behavior gave me the skills I needed to perform my new trick – being me instead of who I thought would please others.
From the very beginning of this experience, I knew that I wanted this book to benefit women’s shelters since the women they serve go through a fate much worse than I had endured. Most of them are not able to support themselves. Nor do they have the emotional support I found at that time. If they did, they would not find themselves in that situation, trying to figure out how they are going to survive.
Anyone that runs a shelter can tell you how expensive it is to keep their doors open. That’s another reason I wanted my book to benefit women’s shelters. One-half of the purchase price of Too Much Gold to Flush, The Gift of Infidelity goes to the women’s shelter that the purchaser designates. Click here to purchase a copy and designate which shelter you want to benefit.
The shelters I am featuring this week are in District of Columbia. This link: District of Columbia will take you to the page for District of Columbia on the Women’s Shelters, a nationwide directory of shelters for women. On their home page, you can either click on a map, enter a zip code, or scroll down to a list of states to find a location closest to you.