People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun  is out, but when the Iris by Pat Grissomdarkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within.    ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.

            Join me on a year-long exploration of creating a new vision.  In the New Thought world, we often hear and read about the concept of the Law of Attraction, which is based on the idea that we attract to us what we expect.  Too often we are attracting what we do not want, but we are clueless about where those negative thoughts originate and how they took such a powerful place in our lives.  Over the next year in weekly blog posts, I will explore that foundational conviction I call a negative core belief and how that impacts six key areas of life – passion (what I pursue and the energy with which I do that), health (emotional, mental, and physical), relationships (with myself and others), money & time (how I spend both), fun (how I define this and how I live it in my life), and giving (to myself and others).

            Each week I will employ one of the seven affirmations that I have repeated daily for the last fifteen years in my morning walks.  These affirmations developed out of a workshop I took at the Cenacle Retreat House in Houston, Texas.  The workshop that prompted me to develop these affirmations was Effective Living, which was developed and taught for over twenty-five years by, Sister Elizabeth, who has made her transition.  The premise of this workshop was that we learn negative core beliefs as children, and we can unlearn these ideas by focusing on what we want to believe instead.  My affirmations that grew from the ones I learned in this class are:

1)      I am present.

2)      I am the flow of change, and I am grateful for the gifts that shifting brings.

3)      I am precious, unique, and authentic.

4)      I am one with all souls, earthly and eternal.

5)      I am the creator of my life; I mold and make my world.

6)      I am my vision, how I see myself and others.

7)      I am entitled to miracles.  Through forgiveness I know I am love.

I will use these seven ideas to walk through a process, first with the negative core belief I/we formed as children, and then the six areas I listed above.  The seven steps are:

1)      What is my negative core belief – and how is it affecting this aspect of my life?

2)      What change would I like to see happen in this particular area of my life?

3)      What skills, talents, and abilities do I bring to this aspect of my life?

4)      What resources do I have to draw from to promote change?

5)      Based on what I explored in number three and four, what is my plan for change?

6)      How is my attitude sabotaging the change I desire?

7)      What can I release in order to accept the shift that I desire in my life?

I look forward to Affirming a New Vision with you over the course of this next year.  Pat



  1. Joshua Clayton

    I like the article, and yes, I do know what type of website this is. I do believe in the strength and equality of women. I reposted a link to your article on facebook, initially because I like the quote about the stained glass window metaphor by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, but more importantly, I do agree with the basic ideas.

  2. Andrea Fenwick

    Pat, I love your ideas of self exploration, and sharing your personal experience with us. I know that this will help many and this is very timely in my life right now! I am looking forward to reading your blog.

  3. Rena Saldana

    I’m looking forward to reading and being a part of this yearlong journey with you. I wish you much success and that it will bring new beginnings beyond measure for you. Also, I am hoping that the desires of your heart will be fulfilled.


  4. Terry Jones

    I can’t wait to get started! Looking so forward to the journey and learning!
    Miss you!

    Terry Jones

  5. This is beautiful Pat. And so transformative. When we consciously do the work—directing the flow of change in our lives—miracles happen! Thank you for sharing. Love, Carla

  6. I love it! Was just searching for some great affirmation examples to bring into my Laughter Yoga class with the intention of spreading the message to those who may not yet know the power of our words…especially affirmations coupled with feelings and imagination!!! I hope to share many more ideas from your series as the year goes on. Can’t wait!

  7. Tamara Kaupp

    Pat, I look forward to following your blog this year and possibly trying out some of the techniques you are exploring. I definitely could use some affirmation!

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