I am one with all souls, earthly and eternal.
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ~Marcel Proust
Obviously I am not alone, and I quickly realized that some of my relationships, particularly the ones that trigger my old negative core beliefs, can immediately take me off The Way. While examining this affirmations, I found myself taking another step backwards to get an even clearer view of the people in my family and how they had impacted my life, the people I had drawn into my life based on their unique fit with what felt normal and comfortable – even if it was not healthy, like my marriage to the man who shared my father’s personality and character. Then I saw the key phrase within the affirmation that brought me back to The Way – All Souls. Every person has a soul, but not every person is operating out of that soul. Very often they are just as stuck as I had been and still am at times. The relationships I formed because they fit into my negative core beliefs were a reflection of the past, and they immediately took me there.
My commitment with this affirmation became a willingness to stay in the present and to stay conscious of my spiritual divine nature – in other words, stay on The Way as much as I can. Along with that I wanted to see the soul in every other individual, whether they were willingly displaying it or not. There is a beautiful Sanskrit greeting that is often used to close a yoga practice – Namaste’, which means the light in me sees and honors the light in you.
The challenge with this affirmation became forming a healthy relationship with myself. Before I could go on to look for others with whom to connect, I had to evaluate how I interacted with and treated myself, and then what did I have to offer to others. Finally, I needed to identify the individuals who would aid me in staying on The Way.
Family gives us our first experience with relationships, and very often the connections that we find with our family of origin shape the rest of our lives. I spent much of my childhood in verbal contest with my father, arguing about things that really did not matter. In contrast to my argumentative relationship with my father, I look at my connection with my grandmother. She was not without her own head-strong traits, but Grandmother believed in me, and because of that, I patterned much of who I am today after her. I trace my healthy eating habits, my ability to paint, and my love of travel to her. I admired these traits in her, and because she believed in me, I gave myself the freedom to believe I could manifest them in my own life.
The core of our physical makeup comes from our biological family, and if this is where we grow up, our emotional state is hugely shaped by our family unit as well. Who I am, I owe to my parents, and to their parents before them. We are a compilation of many generations, a virtual melting pot of grandparents that stretch back as far as we can trace and beyond, each generation adding their own version to the family legacy.
Why do we pass on such damaging thinking to our children? Perhaps it’s because we haven’t fully made peace with our own childhoods and forgiven the wounds that were inflicted on us. ~Ogun Holder, Unity minister
What strengths do you draw from your family that will help you to see the possibility for changing your negative core belief(s)? What resources are available outside of your family to help change your negative core belief(s)?