Step Four: I am one with all souls, earthly and eternal.
The concept of money carries all kinds of negative beliefs like:
- People who have money are either born into it or they are super lucky.
- Either way, they’ve got plenty of time because they have money.
- If I were able to make more money, I’d have the time I need, and people would be impressed, but I’m not good with money or time, so I give up before I start.
It is easy to get caught up in the American mentality of equating success with the size of my bank account or how much free time I have based on paying others to do the things I do not desire to do for myself. To find a healthier measure of true happiness I look beyond the borders of our country where most of the rest of the world operates on a more relaxed time table. Unfortunately, most other countries do envy our monetary wealth and are eager to emulate that. I have to believe that having reached their goal of monetary success, they would find what many United States citizens have come to realize – money or the things you can buy with it does not make one happy. Still I live in a world governed by money and how I spend my time, so fortunately there are others who have developed great strategies for managing both – like Suzy Orman and Stephen Covey.
Whether we like it or not, the quality of our lives are largely determined by how we manage our time and our money. More often than not, these two are interchangeable; if we are good money managers, we often are also good at spending our time wisely. Stephen Covey talks about the four quadrants of success, which he illustrates as one square divided into four squares. The top two are important and the bottom two are unimportant. The two on the right are not urgent, and the two on the left are urgent. Ideally, we spend the bulk of our time, money, and energy in the quadrant that is not urgent, but it is important. Back when I was teaching study skills, I related this to studying as you go along, rather than cramming all night right before a test, behavior that falls in the urgent and important category. Obviously, studying as you go along makes sense, but in life, we very often do not do what makes sense. We do what is easiest, which too often entails procrastination in the form of distractions, which very often fall in the unimportant quadrants of life.
How does all this relate to relationships and time and money? It is our relationship with ourselves and others that determine how we spend our time. Plus, we can always seek outside sources like Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University to help when we are working to improve our money management skills. Much of what he covers in his course is applicable to time management. Very often we manage time and money similarly.
On Success – What you DO is not who you ARE. Success is not to be determined by the people around you. Being in this business I have decided I won’t allow people to determine what MY success is. My biggest success may be raising children and having a successful marriage and not how many records I sell or how many movies I make. ~Katharine McPhee
How do your relationships help you to see possibilities for change in how you experience money? What strengths or resources have you gotten or could you get from others that will aide you in moving toward positive change in how you currently experience spending your time and money?
The more you are able to understand and appreciate someone else’s perspective, the more dimension, depth, and texture you ultimately add to your own. ~Her Majesty Queen Rania Al Abdullah of Jordan