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 The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.  ~ M. Scott Peck

Having found myself in a deep rut and then realizing a liberating truth, I applaud the wisdom of Scott Peck’s words.  Very often the things that we resist the most end up being our greatest lessons, and in the end, the true blessings in our lives.  My great lesson began the day my husband of three months announced to me that he was in love with someone else.  Initially I was devastated.  How could he!?  How dare he!?  I was angry, bitter, embarrassed, and totally confused.

Once I was able to think with any level of clarity, I decided I needed to write a book – to help me understand what had gotten me into that situation and why he was such a terrible person.  It wasn’t long before it dawned on me that I had willingly married him in spite of numerous red flags popping in my face the whole time we were dating.  As I processed all this, I began to see clear patterns of me not taking care of me.  Instead, I focused on being the person I thought my fiancé wanted me to be – not authentic, and certainly not the real me.  My rut, the living grave that I was operating from had become a way of life without me even realizing it.  It took going through this experience for me to fully understand how I had created the rut and made it deeper with my ongoing behavior.

I was barely into processing all this when I decided I wanted my book to benefit women’s shelters since the women they serve go through a fate much worse than I had endured.  Most of them are not able to support themselves.  Nor do they have the emotional support I found at that time.

Anyone that runs a shelter can tell you how expensive it is to keep their doors open.  That’s another reason I wanted my book to benefit women’s shelters.  One-half of the purchase price of Too Much Gold to Flush, The Gift of Infidelity goes to the women’s shelter that the purchaser designates.  Click here to purchase a copy and designate which shelter you want to benefit.

The shelters I am featuring this week are in Florida.  This link: Florida will take you to the page for Florida on the Women’s Shelters, a nationwide directory of shelters for women.  On their home page, you can either click on a map, enter a zip code, or scroll down to a list of states to find a location closest to you.

To check out information about the shelters in Florida, click on the cities listed below:

To order Too Much Gold to Flush on Amazon, click this link.